Ananga-Ranga : Indian Manual About Sex
The Kama-Sutra was written nearly 1500 years ago by a holy man, Vatsyayana. What is concluded, is that is a compilation and a classification of ancient texts about sex, a few which are 3000 years old. Its fame is not only due to its context but also to its unique character. It is known, however, that the texts and overall the erotic engravings were pretty comun in India (as well as in the whole eastern hemisphere), now only a few have survived until our days.
In the Occident Kama-Sutra was hardly known in 1883, in England, through a private edition with the title of The Hindoo Art of love. Another work of identical importance, much less known and rare, called Ananga-Ranga contains, besides texts, a considerable number of erotic engravings of good quality. The author is, a poet: Kalyana Mall. Published in England 10 years before as A Boat in the Ocean of Love remains until today as the most important ilustrated indian manual about sexuality and relationships in between sexes.
Kegagalan Abraham Lincoln Yang Menyakitkan
- Tahun 1831 kebangkrutan dalam usahanya
- Tahun 1832 kalah dalam pemilihan lokal
- Tahun 1833 kembali menderita kebangkrutan
- Tahun 1835 istrinya meninggal dunia
- Tahun 1836 menderita tekanan mental sedemikian rupa sehingga hampir saja masuk rumah sakit
- Tahun 1837 kalah dalam kontes pidato
- Tahun 1840 gagal dalam pemilihan anggota senat Amerika Serikat
- Tahun 1842 menderita kekalahan untuk duduk di dalam kongres Amerika Serikat
- Tahun 1848 kalah lagi di kongres Amerika Serikat
- Tahun1855 gagal lagi di senat Amerika Serikat
- Tahun1856 kalah dalam pemilihan untuk menduduki kursi wakil presiden Amerika Serikat
- Tahun 1858 kalah lagi di senat
- Tahun 1860 akhirnya berhasil menjadi presiden Amerika Serikat
Tambahan
Lucunya... pada saat Abraham lincoln menjadi presiden dia berkata, "Ternyata sekarang saya baru sadar bahwa saya ditakdirkan sebagai presiden". Mengapa beliau mengatakan hal demikian?, karena melihat perjuangannya yang terus - terusan gagal saat mencalonkan diri dalam berbagai hal, Eh.. kebetulan aja pas nyalonin diri jadi presiden berhasil Hahha... , Akan tetapi pelajaran yang bisa kita ambil adalah bahwa semangat pantang menyerahnya yang menjadikan dia hebat, bukan jabatannya.
Don't Give Up
The Five Lessons: Treating People Right
--Author Unknown
1 - First Important Lesson: The Cleaning Lady
During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:
"What is the first name of the woman who cleans this building?"
Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?
I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.
"Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."
I've never forgotten that lesson.. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
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2. - Second Important Lesson: Pickup in the Rain
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down, and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.
A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by, and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read:
"Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's' bedside just before he passed away... God Bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."
Sincerely,
Mrs. Nat King Cole.
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3 - Third Important Lesson: Always Remember Those Who Serve.
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.
"How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked.
"Fifty cents," replied the waitress.
The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. "Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired.
By now, more people were waiting for a table, and the waitress was growing impatient. "Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied.
The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream, please," he said.
The waitress brought the ice cream, put t he bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies.
You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough le ft to leave her a tip.
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4 - Fourth Important Lesson: The Obstacle In Our Path
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the King's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.
Then a peasant came along, carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King, indicating that the gold was for the person, who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand:
Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.
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5 - Fifth Important Lesson: Giving When It Counts
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz, who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness.
The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.
I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her."
As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked, with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?"
Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her…
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Learn these lessons, and remember:.
"Work like you don't need the money,
love like you've never been hurt,
and dance like you do when nobody's watching."
10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking
Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.
Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You’ll notice a huge difference in everything you do.
Let’s take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges — get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the world for me.
1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).
Problem: If you think you can’t be happy until you reach a certain point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of house or car or computer setup, you’ll never be happy. That elusive goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are not satisfied — we want more.
Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn’t have to be some state that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This might sound simplistic, but it works.
2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).
Problem: We’ll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted, as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.
Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in every one of us.
3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.
Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in different ways.
Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it, and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do. And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions of people worse off than you, people who couldn’t even read this article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.
4. I am a miserable failure — I can’t seem to do anything right.
Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways. Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail, daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a negative self-image and never move on from here.
Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them — keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you’ve accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It’s an incredibly positive feeling.
5. I’m going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I’m better than him. And there’s no way I’ll help him succeed — he might beat me.
Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However, who is to say that my subscribers can’t also be yours? People can read and subscribe to more than one blog.
Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal. There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in terms of abundance rather than scarcity.
6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?
Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they will frustrate us and bring us down.
Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life. Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don’t let it hold you back. Don’t dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get stronger, in disguise.
7. You can’t do anything right! Why can’t you be like ____ ?
Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things, different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics. If we were all the same, we’d be robots. Second, saying negative things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.
Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last, and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their differences.
8. Your work sucks. It’s super lame. You are a moron and I hope you never reproduce.
Problem: I’ve actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful. However, let’s look at it not from the perspective of the person receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth, making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It’s also not a good way to make friends.
Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way — it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself. And you can make some great friends this way. That’s a good thing.
9. Insulting People Back
Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.
Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you like Teflon. Don’t let their problem become yours. In fact, try to understand their problem more — why would someone say something like that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.
10. I don’t think I can do this — I don’t have enough discipline. Maybe some other time.
Problem: If you don’t think you can do something, you probably won’t. Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it — motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put stuff off for “some other time”, you’ll never get it done. Negative thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.
Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don’t need discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time, putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with positive thinking.
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Six ways to make people like you
- Become genuinely interested in other people.
- Smile.
- Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
- Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
- Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
Win people to your way of thinking
- The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
- Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
- If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
- Begin in a friendly way.
- Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
- Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
- Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
- Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
- Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
- Appeal to the nobler motives.
- Dramatize your ideas.
- Throw down a challenge.
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
- Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
- Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
- Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
- Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
- Let the other person save face.
- Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
- Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
- Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
- Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
Why I love this Doctor (Humor)
A: Your heart is only good for so many beats, and that's it... Don't waste them on exercise. Everything wears out eventually.
Speeding up your heart will not make you live longer; that's like saying you can extend the life of your car by driving it faster. Want to live longer? Take a nap.
Q: Should I cut down on meat and eat more fruits and vegetables?
A: You must grasp logistical efficiencies. What does a cow eat? Hay and corn. And what are these? Vegetables.
So a steak is nothing more than an efficient mechanism of delivering vegetables to your system. Need grain?
Eat chicken. Beef is also a good source of field grass (green leafy vegetable).
And a pork chop can give you 100% of your recommended daily allowance of vegetable products.
Q: Should I reduce my alcohol intake?
A: No, not at all. Wine is made from fruit. Brandy is distilled wine, that means they take the water out of the fruity bit so you
Get even more of the goodness that way. Beer is also made out of grain. Bottoms up!
Q: How can I calculate my body/fat ratio?
A: Well, if you have a body and you have fat, your ratio is one to one. If you have two bodies, your ratio is two to one, etc.
Q: What are some of the advantages of participating in a regular exercise program?
A: Can't think of a single one, sorry. My philosophy is: No Pain...Good!
Q: Aren't fried foods bad for you?
A: YOU'RE NOT LISTENING!!! ..... Foods are fried these days in vegetable oil. In fact, they're permeated in it.
How could getting more vegetables be bad for you?
Q: Will sit-ups help prevent me from getting a little soft around the middle?
A: Definitely not! When you exercise a muscle, it gets bigger. You should only be doing sit-ups if you want a bigger stomach.
Q: Is chocolate bad for me?
A: Are you crazy? HELLO Cocoa beans ! Another vegetable!!! It's the best feel-good food around!
Q: Is swimming good for your figure?
A: If swimming is good for your figure, explain whales to me.
Q: Is getting in-shape important for my lifestyle?
A: Hey! 'Round' is a shape!
Well, I hope this has cleared up any misconceptions you may have had about food and diets.
And remember:
'Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways -
Chardonnay in one hand - chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO HOO, What a Ride'
AND.....
For those of you who watch what you eat, here's the final word on nutrition and health. It's a relief to know the truth after all those conflicting nutritional studies.
1. The Japanese eat very little fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
2. The Mexicans eat a lot of fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
3. The Chinese drink very little red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
4. The Italians drink a lot of red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
5. The Germans drink a lot of beers and eat lots of sausages and fats and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.
CONCLUSION
Eat and drink what you like.
Speaking English is apparently what kills you.
Bahagia dari John C Maxwell (Motivation)
Sebaliknya, ketika Margaret sedang menjadi pembicara di salah satu sesi, suaminya selalu menemaninya dari bangku paling depan.
Ceritanya, suatu ketika sang istri, Margaret, sedang menjadi pembicara di salah satu sesi seminar tentang kebahagiaan. Seperti biasa, Maxwell duduk di bangku paling depan dan mendengarkan. Dan di akhir sesi, semua pengunjung bertepuk tangan. Yang namanya seminar selalu ada interaksi
dua arah dari peserta seminar juga kan ? (Kalau satu arah mah namanya khotbah.)
Di sesi tanya jawab itu, setelah beberapa pertanyaan, seorang ibu mengacungkan tangannya untuk bertanya. Ketika diberikan kesempatan, pertanyaan ibu itu seperti ini, "Miss Margaret, apakah suami Anda membuat Anda bahagia?"
Seluruh ruangan langsung terdiam. Satu pertanyaan yang bagus. Dan semua peserta penasaran menunggu jawaban Margaret. Margaret tampak berpikir beberapa saat dan kemudian menjawab, "Tidak."
Seluruh ruangan langsung terkejut. "Tidak," katanya sekali lagi, "John Maxwell tidak bisa membuatku bahagia." Seisi ruangan langsung menoleh ke arah Maxwell. (Kebayang ga malunya Maxwell saat itu.) Dan Maxwell juga menoleh-noleh mencari pintu keluar. Rasanya ingin cepat-cepat keluar. Malu ui!
Kemudian, lanjut Margaret, "John Maxwell adalah seorang suami yang sangat baik. Ia tidak pernah berjudi, mabuk-mabukan, main serong. Ia setia, selalu memenuhi kebutuhan saya, baik jasmani maupun rohani. Tapi, tetap dia tidak bisa membuatku bahagia.."
Tiba-tiba ada suara bertanya, "Mengapa?"
"Karena," jawabnya, "tidak ada seorang pun di dunia ini yang bertanggung jawab atas kebahagiaanku selain diriku sendiri."
Dengan kata lain, maksud dari Margaret adalah, tidak ada orang lain yang bisa membuatmu bahagia. Baik itu pasangan hidupmu, sahabatmu, uangmu, hobimu. Semua itu tidak bisa membuatmu bahagia. Karena yang bisa membuat dirimu bahagia adalah dirimu sendiri.
Kamu bertanggung jawab atas dirimu sendiri. Kalau kamu sering merasa berkecukupan, tidak pernah punya perasaan minder, selalu percaya diri, kamu tidak akan merasa sedih. Sesungguhnya pola pikir kita yang menentukan apakah kita bahagia atau tidak, bukan faktor luar.
Bahagia atau tidaknya hidupmu bukan ditentukan oleh seberapa kaya dirimu, seberapa cantik istrimu, atau sesukses apa hidupmu. Ini masalah pilihan: apakah kamu memilih untuk bahagia atau tidak .
3 Sesi Kehidupan
Anda tak bisa mengubah apa pun yang telah terjadi.
Anda tak bisa menarik perkataan yang telah terucapkan.
dan mengulangi kegembiraan yang anda rasakan kemarin.
Biarkan hari kemarin lewat; lepaskan saja...
Hari esok. (FUTURE)
Hingga mentari esok hari terbit,
Anda tak tahu apa yang akan terjadi.
Anda tak bisa melakukan apa-apa esok hari.
Anda tak mungkin sedih atau ceria di esok hari.
Esok hari belum tiba; biarkan saja...
tapi......
Hari ini. (PRESENT)
Pintu masa lalu telah tertutup;
Pintu masa depan pun belum tiba.
Pusatkan saja diri anda untuk hari ini.
Anda dapat mengerjakan lebih banyak hal hari ini bila anda mampu memaafkan hari kemarin dan
Karena yang ada hanyalah hari ini; hari ini yang abadi.
Cintailah seseorang sepenuh hati hari ini, karena mungkin besok cerita sudah berganti. Ingatlah bahwa anda menunjukkan penghargaan pada orang lain bukan karena siapa mereka, tetapi karena siapakah diri anda sendiri Jadi, jangan biarkan masa lalu mengekangmu atau masa depan membuatmu bingung, lakukan yang terbaik HARI INI dan lakukan SEKARANG juga!
7 Kebiasaan Orang-Orang Berdaya Ingat Kuat
7 Kebiasaan Orang-Orang Berdaya Ingat Kuat
Jakarta, Orang-orang berdaya ingat kuat memiliki beberapa kebiasaan yang tidak akan mereka lewatkan tiap harinya. Melatih kebiasaan itu mungkin bisa membuat Anda menjadi salah satu dari mereka yang berdaya ingat kuat.
Melindungi dan meningkatkan kemampuan otak sangatlah mudah. Cukup melatih beberapa kebiasaan kecil dan ubah pola hidup yang tidak baik. Otak akan tetap hidup bahkan meningkat kemampuannya jika terus dilatih dan digunakan.
Sebuah survei online dilakukan oleh para peneliti Australia terhadap 29.500 orang responden yang telah diseleksi dan termasuk kategori orang-orang yang memiliki daya ingat kuat.
Para responden sebelumya menjalani beberapa tes ingatan seperti mengingat kejadian-kejadian 1, 5 atau 20 tahun yang lalu, menghafal daftar belanja, mengingat wajah orang, nama-namanya serta pekerjaannnya masing-masing.
Peneliti juga menganalisis pola hidup dan pola makannya sehari-hari. Akhirnya setelah melakukan beberapa analisis, para peneliti mengetahui dan menyimpulkan 7 kebiasaan orang-orang dengan daya ingat yang kuat.
Dikutip dari Prevention, Jumat (7/8/2009), ini dia 7 kebiasaan sederhana mereka yang berdaya ingat kuat yang bisa Anda terapkan sehari-hari untuk meningkatkan kemampuan otak.
1. Tidak mengonsumsi alkohol
Mereka dengan memori yang kuat ternyata jarang mengonsumsi minuman-minuman beralkohol, karena ternyata alkohol dapat merusak sistem saraf dan melemahkan kemampuan otak.
2. Menonton televisi tidak lebih dari satu jam setiap harinya
Orang-orang berdaya ingat kuat jarang melihat tontonan-tontonan yang tidak terlalu penting, kecuali tontonan yang sifatnya mengedukasi. Mereka lebih sering membaca ketimbang menonton.
3. Sering membaca novel
Dengan membaca novel, otak akan dilatih berpikir dan menebak-nebak apa yang akan terjadi. Alur cerita novel yang berliku-liku akan membuat otak terus berpikir tapi dalam bentuk petualangan otak yang lebih menarik dan seru.
4. Selalu menyilang-nyilangkan dan menyambung-nyambungkan data
Kemampuan otak akan terus meningkat ketika data yang masuk ke dalamnya terhubung satu sama lain. Dengan menghubung-hubungkan seperti itu, sebuah data akan tersimpan dan tertanam dalam otak lebih kuat lagi.
5. Tidak pernah lupa mengonsumsi ikan
Ikan diketahui merupakan sumber protein yang berfungsi meregenerasi sel-sel mati. Sel-sel otak pun harus terus diregenerasi. Beberapa jenis ikan seperti salmon dan sarden mengandung omega 3 yang sangat baik untuk perkembangan sel-sel otak dan kemampuan mengingat seseorang.
6. Meminum teh atau kopi
Teh dan kopi mengandung kafein yang bisa memacu kerja jantung dan otak untuk terus terjaga dan bekerja lebih baik lagi. Namun konsumsi yang berlebihan, terutama kopi bisa berakibat fatal. Minumlah dalam dosis yang sewajarnya.
7. Selalu membuat catatan dalam bentuk jurnal atau notes kecil
Data yang masuk ke otak kita tanpa tercatat mungkin saja menempel dan mungkin juga tidak. Namun jika data tersebut dicatat, maka kita dapat melihatnya kembali ketika lupa. Mencatat juga ternyata bisa meningkatkan kemampuan otak untuk menghafal hingga 20 persen.
PERBEDAAN PERSEPSI
Ada seorang ayah yang menjelang ajalnya di hadapan sang Istri berpesan DUA
hal kepada 2 anak laki-lakinya :
Pertama : Jangan pernah menagih hutang kepada orang yg berhutang kepadamu.
Kedua : Jika pergi ke toko jangan sampai mukanya terkena sinar matahari.
Waktu berjalan terus. Dan kenyataan terjadi, bahwa beberapa tahun setelah ayahnya meninggal anak yang sulung bertambah kaya sedang yang bungsu menjadi semakin miskin.
Pada suatu hari sang Ibu menanyakan hal itu kepada mereka.
Jawab anak yang bungsu :
“Ini karena saya mengikuti pesan ayah. Ayah berpesan bahwa saya
tidak boleh menagih hutang kepada orang yang berhutang kepadaku,
akibatnya modalku susut karena orang yang berhutang kepadaku tidak
membayar sementara aku tidak boleh menagih”.
“Juga Ayah berpesan supaya kalau saya pergi atau pulang dari rumah ke
toko dan sebaliknya tidak boleh terkena sinar matahari. Akibatnya saya
harus naik becak atau andong, padahal sebetulnya saya bisa berjalan
kaki saja, tetapi karena pesan ayah itu, akibatnya pengeluaranku
bertambah banyak”.
Kepada anak yang sulung yang bertambah kaya, sang Ibu pun bertanya hal yang sama.
“Ini semua adalah karena saya mentaati pesan ayah. Karena Ayah berpesan supaya saya tidak menagih kepada orang yang berhutang kepada saya, maka saya tidak pernah menghutangkan sehingga dengan demikian modal tidak susut”.
“Juga Ayah berpesan agar supaya jika saya berangkat ke toko atau pulang dari toko tidak boleh terkena sinar matahari, maka saya berangkat ke toko sebelum matahari terbit dan pulang sesudah matahari terbenam. Karenanya toko saya buka sebelum toko lain buka, dan tutup
jauh sesudah toko yang lain tutup.”
“Sehingga karena kebiasaan itu, orang menjadi tahu dan tokoku menjadi laris, karena mempunyai jam kerja lebih lama”.
MORAL CERITA :
Kisah diatas menunjukkan bagaimana sebuah kalimat di tanggapi
dengan presepsi yang berbeda. Jika kita melihat dengan positive
attitude maka segala kesulitan sebenarnya adalah sebuah perjalanan
membuat kita sukses tetapi kita bisa juga terhanyut dengan adanya
kesulitan karena rutinitas kita… pilihan ada di tangan anda.
‘Berusahalah melakukan hal biasa dengan cara yang luar biasa’
KUNCI SUKSES ARISTOTLE ONASSIS
Salah seorang Dextoners berbaik hati mengirimkan "surat wasiat" Aristotle Onassis yang katanya juga jadi kiat suksesnya. Entah benar atau tidak, tapi beberapa hal yang ditulis kelihatannya masuk akal. Berikut "surat wasiat" Aristotle Onassis:
- Jaga badanmu agar tetap sehat. Banggalah dengan fisik yang kita punya. Jangan risaukan hal-hal kecil, kita tidak sejelek seperti apa yang kita bayangkan. Ingat kulit yang sehat akan tampak seperti orang yang banyak uang.
- Usahakan tersenyum, jangan suka cemberut. Perlihatkan bahwa segalanya beres. Tunjukkan bahwa hidupmu sehari-hari selalu tampak menyenangkan.
- Jaga penampilanmu. Jangan pernah memperlihatkan dan menceritakan kemelaratanmu. Karena biasanya orang benci pada orang yang melarat.
- Jangan tidur terlalu banyak. Kalau dapat mengurangi tidur 3 jam sehari, maka dalam setahun akan menambah waktu 1,5 bulan untuk meraih sukses.
- Makan minum secukupnya. Jangan makan sambil bicara bisnis,tunggu sampai selesai dulu. Jangan menghabiskan waktu berjam-jam di meja makan selagi ada pekerjaan mendesak, yang harus segera diselesaikan.
- Kalau tidak punya modal, pinjam dulu dalam jumlah besar. Jangan meminjam dalam jumlah sedikit. Jangan sekali-kali menunda jadwal pembayaran. Jaga reputasi, buat pemodal atau Bank percaya padamu.
- Pilihlah teman yang dapat mendorong prestasimu. Hindari orang yang suka mematahkan semangatmu.
- Dengarkan orang lain. Buatlah mereka merasa senang. Hormati mereka, maka kita akan dihormati oleh semua orang. Ini adalah kunci sukses yang utama
Berfokus Pada Kelebihan Diri
"Anak-anak, coba tuliskan tiga kelebihanmu," kata seorang guru pada anak-anak sekolah dasar.
Menit demi menit berlalu namun anak-anak itu seakan masih bingung.
Dengan setengah berakting, sang guru kemudian bersuara keras :
"Ayo, tuliskan! Kalau ngga, kertasmu saya sobek lo." Anak-anak manis itu seketika menjadi salah tingkah.
Beberapa di antara mereka, memang tampak mulai menulis. Salah satu di antara mereka menulis di atas kertas, "Kadang-kadang nurutin kata ibu. Kadang-kadang bantu ibu. Kadang-kadang nyuapin adik makan."
Penuh rasa penasaran, sang guru bertanya kepadanya : "Kenapa tulisnya kadang-kadang?". Dengan wajah penuh keluguan, sang bocah hanya berkata :
"Emang cuma kadang-kadang, Bu guru." !
Ketika semua anak telah menuliskan kelebihan dirinya, sang guru kemudian melanjutkan instruksi berikutnya :
"Sekarang anak-anak, coba tuliskan tiga kelemahanmu atau hal-hal yang buruk dalam dirimu."
Seketika ruangan kelas menjadi gaduh. Anak-anak tampak bersemangat.
Salah satu dari mereka angkat tangan dan bertanya :
"Tiga saja, Bu guru?".
"Ya, tiga saja!" jawab sang guru. Anak tadi langsung menyambung :
"Bu guru, jangankan tiga, sepuluh juga bisa!".
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Apa pelajaran yang bisa kita petik dari cerita sederhana itu? Saya menangkap setidaknya ada beberapa hal penting yang bisa kita pelajari.
Salah satunya, kita sering tidak menyadari apa kelebihan diri kita karena lingkungan dan orang di sekitar kita jauh lebih sering mengkomunikasikan kepada kita kejelekan dan kekurangan kita.
Baru-baru ini, di sebuah televisi swasta pertunjukkan seni dari para penyandang cacat. Sangat mengharukan. Ada orang buta yang begitu piawai bermain piano atau kecapi. Pria tanpa lengan dan wanita muda yang tuli dapat menari dengan begitu indahnya.
"Luar biasa, dia bisa menari dengan penuh penghayatan. Yang membuat saya heran, dia kan tuli tapi kok bisa mengikuti irama lagu dengan sangat tepat?", kata saya dalam hati terkagum-kagum.
Seorang pria buta yang bernyanyi dengan nada merdu sempat berkata,
"Saudaraku, saya memiliki dua mata seperti Anda. Namun yang ada di depan saya hanyalah kegelapan. Ibu saya mengatakan saya bisa bernyanyi, dan ia memberi saya semangat untuk bernyanyi."
Benarlah apa yang dikatakan Alexander Graham Bell : "Setelah satu pintu tertutup, pintu lainnya terbuka; tetapi kerap kali kita terlalu lama memandangi dan menyesali pintu yang telah tertutup sehingga kita tidak melihat pintu yang telah dibuka untuk kita."
Fokuskan perhatian pada kelebihan kita dan bukan kelemahan kita.
Menghargai Perbedaan Pendapat
Suatu kejadian perbedaan pendapat dengan rekan kerja yang terjadi pada saat
bekerja telah membuat saya sedikit berfikir untuk dapat berintropeksi diri
dari kesalahan, keakuan dan sedikit ego diri.
Terkadang kita sebagai manusia merasa kita yang paling benar, dan kita
mungkin pernah meremehkan pendapat, atau saran dari orang, terutama dari
orang yang kita anggap lebih rendah status sosialnya, Atau seorang yang baru
kita kenal.
Kerap ketika kita menjadi seorang pemimpin sering muncul keangkuhan pribadi
dalam menerima pendapat dan kritik, dan kita meremehkan anak buahnya,
padahal sesorang disebut pemimpin jika dia memiliki anak buah.
Sering juga kita mengabaikan hati nurani, dalam pengambilan keputusan,
sebenarnya perbedaan pendapat adalah suatu anugrah yang patut disukuri,
karena dengan perbedaan pendapat kita bisa memiliki banyak pilihan
keputusan, atau alternative penyelesaian masalah.
Sering kita sakit hati ketika ide atau gagasan kita tidak diterima oleh
sahabat, rekan kerja, rekan bisnis, keluarga, dan suatu hubungan interaksi
social lainnya. Coba kita berfikir positif jika pendapat kita belum dipakai,
mungkin pendapat orang lain lebih tepat untuk meyelesaikan permasalahan.
Dengan kita bisa menerima pendapat atau pandangan orang lain, dan tidak
maksakan kehendak, adalah cermin dari kedewasaan, kebijaksanaan dari
seseorang, seorang yang sudah berpribadi matang, cenderung akan menghargai
pendapat orang lain, dan orang yang belum dewasa akan cenderung memaksakan
keakuaanya.
Saat persaingan dunia kerja, atau sebagai penunjukan keeksistensian
seseorang, terkadang sesorang dengan tak mau mengalah ingin pendapatnya
dihargai, dan diakui sebagai ide miliknya.Sering saya lihat karena perbedaan
pendapat orang berkelahi fisik, atau saling mendendam dan berniat untuk
saling menjatuhkan. Hal tersbut kurang lah bermanfaat, yang terjadi adalah
suatu kerusakan, dan sikap saling memusuhi.
Seperti sifat asli bangsa Indonesia yang suka bermusyawarah untuk mufakat
yang saat ini sudah jauh ditinggalkan, dengan banyaknya pendapat berbeda
juga bisa menginspirasi munculnya ide baru hasil penggabungan fisi beberapa
orang yang ada.
Jadi kenapa tidak kita bergabung bersama untuk mendapat ide yang lebih baik,
atau menghargai ide orang lain saat ide kita tidak diterima. Tetapi kita
juga janganlah congkak ketika ide kita diterima. Mari kita saling menghargai
perbedaan pendapat diantara kita. Karena manusia terdiri dari banyak
pemikiran. Dan mari kita buat perbedaan menjadi hal yang menyatukan.
" Bersifat lapang dada saat ide kita tidak diterima adalah sebuah proses
kematangan diri "
" Menghargai perbedaan pendapat adalah sangat bijaksana"
Erwin Arianto
